What does Affection Mean to YOU?
While affection is described as a fondness or expression of attraction , how does your partner see it? Is it something they feel comfortable with, or is too much invasion of personal space uncomfortable for them. Why?
What words, gestures and touches are important and meaningful to you? Which ones just turn you off? This may be very different for each of you.
Be specific and be truthful. Listen. If you have been rubbing their knee in public for years and they confess that they really don't like that, refrain from being offended. Sometimes people's opinions about affection change over time. Just listen and remember for next time. Find out what IS meaningful to them. Maybe just holding their hand is something that they like instead. Don't expect to solve all your intricate intimacy issues with this question. It is just to get you started communicating and listening and learning!
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