As long as I can remember I have always loved thinking about why people act like they do. I have always analyzed and sought ways to better understand my relationships and those around me.
Fast forward to marriage when I learned that communication was much more than just talking. It involved listening and sharing of feelings. It was a give and take, often and always, day in and day out activity!! My husband says now that he was overwhelmed when he realized that it took so much effort in our early days of marriage.
We sought out marriage books, and seminars and classes that helped us grow as a couple.
Going through my parents divorce when I was 43 years old forever changed me. Pain is always the best teacher, if we listen. And again, my compelling desire to understand and help myself relate to others was awakened. After counseling and writing a blog that was designed to help adult children of divorce, I knew there was one more piece.
As recently as last week, and several times in the past month, I have heard long married couples tell of how they don't have meaningful conversations with their spouse. How they don't know what they have in common after all these years. They don't know what to talk about anymore. These raw and honest revelations remind me that if you feel that way, you are not alone!
That is how Time For Thirty Questions can be helpful to you! When my husband and I were trained to be marriage mentors, we read many books and had some great training. I decided to narrow down the questions that are encouraged to get couples talking, into 5 Categories : Love, Money, Emotions, Faith and Miscellaneous. Each of these categories can evoke thousands of questions. But to not overwhelm anyone out there, I have chosen five questions for each topic and will lay them out here for you to talk to your partner about!
Take one question at a time. It really can be fun and easy and improve your understanding of each other. The investment is worth more than you may know! Thirty Questions could be the beginning of a deeper connection for both of you!!
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