Blocks. You loved them as a child. The feeling of holding something in your hand. Looking at the color, the shape, seeing the letter of the alphabet possibly, or just building with them, was a simple pleasure.
Questions are the building blocks of learning. If you don't know how to do something, you need to ask. If you don't understand how to cook that favorite dish, you may need to ask someone who knows how! You may have to ask directions! You may need to ask the meaning of a medical term when being diagnosed with some ailment. We don't know everything, so we must ask.
Why do we think that after years of a marriage or relationship , that we don't have to ask.
Questions are still foundational to growth. They help build a foundation and they also build it higher, stronger, and more sure.
The following questions are for you. They are for your spouse/partner. You will think they sound simple. You will think you know the answer. BUT the answers you think you know are the answers that are made up of what you are currently building. Often that is a relationship that is predictable, void of real intimacy and growth. The answers you think you know make you ignorant of how your loved one has changed over the years. Yes, contrary to what we want to think, we ALL change over time. The goal is to change "together" to grow in a way that we stick together. We communicate and stay committed.
That is a simple pleasure. Years of being heard and understood. Holding the answers to the questions, not in your hand, but in your heart. The next post we will jump right into the first topic and the subsequent five questions that relate. Then we will go to other topics and questions.
Get ready to build. One block at a time!!!
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