Do you want to know why "re" is good for your marriage?
Because the prefix "re-" means “back” or “again.
We want to go back again and again to being new or feeling new.
Fresh things bring us nourishment and comfort. I think of fresh fruit or fresh, clean sheets. We want to go back to that again and again.
Going back to something good, that brings connectedness over and over is good for our marriages. And one thing that can enhance that in our lives, are hobbies.
Ask your partner "What Hobby Would You Like To Do Together".
You don't even have to do the hobby in the future, but just knowing what they may find helpful to their wellbeing is good for you to know. Hobbies help us move away from our responsibilities and stresses and instead put our energy into recovering from the depletion we experience many days.
Biking together, joining a choir, painting, gardening, or cooking together are just some examples of what your spouse may say. Don't judge, or comment or say why you would not like to do that. Just ask and listen. Then just take some time to think about it, or ask more questions like "Why do you think that would be fun?"
If you think you would like it as well, go ahead and try it once or twice. You may have to schedule it in your week or month. If you don't think you would like it, maybe try it anyway. You may find you like it better than you thought and the reward of a closer friendship may be worth the time spent.
Reacquaint yourself with your partners interests, and as you do you will find your relationship reawakened in fun and leisure which will bring great reward to you both! You may find yourself coming back again and again to the hobby you choose to pursue together!
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